Rather than stress about how hard it was to meet the perfect woman at the age of 30, I decided to forget about dating all together. When you start dating yourself, your mindset shifts. Stay up late and watch episodes of your favorite show on Netflix.
Rather than define your own self-worth based on whether someone else swipes right at your photo or whether someone else wants to go home with you, you determine your own self-worth based on how you’re spending your time.
I lowkey really hate any kind of messaging, whether it’s texting or chatting on whatever app.” – Quyen, early twenties. Which gets repetitive, and then gets boring.” – Matt, late twenties.
“I’ll just delete my dating apps temporarily to take a break from online dating in general.
” “Smiley, how am I supposed to meet someone when everyone attractive and dateable is already taken? It might help you stop worrying about what other people think of your sixth Tinder photo (or stress about whether you should even have a sixth Tinder photo — “who the hell has six Tinder photos?!
” “Smiley, I can’t go to another wedding without a 1, it’s embarrassing! ”) and start thinking about how you want to spend your days.
Online dating is also just time-consuming.” – Kate, mid-twenties*.I was talking to a group of my girlfriends the other day and the topic of dating came up. No, neither had entered into a relationship and was now deleting their apps because their exclusive relationship required it, but rather, they were deleting their apps because they were talking to too many men, going on too many uneventful first dates, sending out too many messages only to receive radio silence, and getting too many “Sups” from uninspired suitors.