Find out early if there are reasons that “making it work” will be fraught. Select a few of these questions rather than attempt to ask them all on the same first date! For example, if one person likes to take very long trips and the other person has a more standard two weeks vacation time. If asking this question leads to five solid minutes of them complaining you'll know the person sees the glass as half empty. Why: When you enter a relationship with someone you’re also entering a relationship with their friends. Why: If one of you doesn't like pets and the other has 3 dogs, that's likely to be a problem. Also, if anything out of the ordinary has happened that might be affecting your date’s mood, it’s good to factor this in. Also, it’s nice to give your date an opportunity to answer a question that isn't directly about them. Whether your relationship is brand-new, or you have been together for a while, asking questions - both serious and fun - offers a great way to get to know your partner and spark meaningful conversations. Fun questions help get the conversation going, but you'll want to delve into more serious matters eventually.
The examples below are intended to stimulate your own ideas rather than as rules. Why: Is the person about to make any major life changes e.g., leave their 0K/year job to go back to school? Do they see it as a job, a vocation, or are they primarily motivated by climbing the career ladder?
" Just a few questions spread throughout the date night, or even throughout the week. I notice the lull in conversation, and I start with a prolonged "Whhhhaat..." in hopes that something fun, funny or profound will follow.
Instead, all that slips out is a line from Monty Python and the Holy Grail: "What... " The other night that lead to a full conversation of our favorite Monty Python bits ("are you suggesting that coconuts migrate?
First Date [email protected] Followif i left you alone in a room with a box of my oreos and told you not to eat them, how long would it take for you to disobey my wishes?
PM - 24 Nov 14Reply Retweet Favorite First Date [email protected] Follow If I was like “choose between going to the gym for 30 minutes and spending 6 entire days on a couch,” how quickly would you choose couch?
"); usually, however, it helps to actually write a couple questions down.