Ultimately, whether a single person meets a date through one of the top Christian dating services like e Harmony, Christian Mingle or Christian Cafe, or through a traditional dating path, it’s their responsibility to keep themselves from getting hurt or being deceived by a pathological liar.
Let’s keep our hearts open to romance and love, but let us also use godly wisdom.
For instance if your date praises your hairdo when you know it is far from perfect, it is a white lie indulged in order to make you happy or gloss over an unpalatable truth.
While responses of these people cannot be trusted completely, still you know they mean no harm.
In fact, you find yourself saying those three words — “I don’t know” — a lot when talking to your friends about him because you never know where you stand. You’ll catch him out in a lie and you’ll confront him, but he’s not going to give in so easily. You’ll lose your temper and he’ll make you seem like the bad one for it. Compulsive liars just can’t take responsibility for the crap they cause because they believe their own lies. Liars go through cycles: they’ll be charming and sweet, then they’ll lie, then they’ll get caught out and try to be extra charming and sweet to keep you hanging on. The sad thing is that the “great guy” might return, but never for long. A mistake is to think that you’re just being paranoid or dramatic, perhaps due to a turbulent romantic history that was riddled with men you couldn’t trust.
Even if you are casually dating this person and far from being in a serious relationship, having to deal with lies all the time can quickly turn things sour.